2.04.2010

Thoughts on St. Valentines Day



Men hate Valentines Day. They know it is essentially our day and comes with a lot of expectations and this scares the ghost-shit out of them. We expect them to handle the sacred day the way we would, something planned a week in advance, a well written card, maybe a dinner reservation and some dark red roses, maybe flowers delivered to work. Point is, February 14th is an important day to most of us and most of us expect something handed to us on that DAY.

The truth is they have no idea the day even exists until we make a few hints and then they panic.

Case in point:

One year on Valentines Day I woke up to no card, no flowers not even any of those awful heart candies. As I handed Tim his card and beautifully wrapped gifts the look on his face would have sent shivers down the spine of Stephen King. He began to apologize and back peddle, I assured him that "it was fine" using my best soothing mature voice. Later I was standing at the sink doing dishes trying to tell myself Valentines is stupid anyway, when I started to cry. Tim dragged his eyes up from the Discovery Channel to ask me what was wrong, through blubbers and tears I said "well, you have never forgotten Valentines Day before and it just makes me so sad."

He suddenly left the house and returned bearing gifts of chocolates, flowers and a stuffed bear that sang. I thought I might feel guilty for making him feel bad.

No guilt whatsoever.

8 comments:

allicat said...

I'm glad he took action at your tears. Lots of men would have ignored it and kept watching TV. So Tim gets a gold star.

I haven't had to deal with that whole issue for many years now. I'm not sure which is worse - having your man forget valentine's day, or not having a man to share it with....

i haven't shed any tears on V-day so I'm gathering it's better to be without the man :)

This year I asked Kennedy to by my valentine. She said yes.

Chris said...

You should feel NO GUILT over that. And I am so glad you told him how you felt--a lot of us would be too proud and say "oh nothing, don't worry about it". And he acted upon it. Good.

Men suck at this crap, and we all know it. Unless it's the dating years, they always screw it up.

Erica said...

Malia and I were just discussing this yesterday. And WHY must it be such a source of panic? I mean grab a card, send me some flowers, you're done!

Ridiculous.

Anonymous said...

Brim over I assent to but I about the post should secure more info then it has.

Malia said...

It's true, Erica and I were just talking about it!

I told Erica that one year I was in the kitchen when Brad walked in with a Walmart bag that had tulips and a card inside. He pulled the tulips out of the Walmart bag, and then scribbled a note inside the card with me standing THERE!! And then handed them both to me. When I called him out on not writing a more thoughtful note he said "that's what the card is for."

Valentines blows.

Ashley Rae said...

Yeah... you definitely shouldn't feel guilty for that. Men really do usually know how to screw up a holiday. lol. But luckily he seemed to redeem himself quite nicely :)

craig said...

that may be my favorite cupid picture of all time....

Michelle said...

Malia that story is amazing!

Yes, Craig I agree.